Including Better Sex
There’s an old joke people tell, women need a reason to have sex, men just need a place.
According to Dr. Tiffany Field with the University of Miami/Miller School of Medicine, holding hands is a powerful form of touch in part because the skin is a sense organ and needs stimulation. Several benefits have been discovered when humans interact through touch.
Touch Increases Oxytocin (the love hormone)
Multiple studies have found that human touch, including holding hands, increases the level of oxytocin in the brain. Oxytocin is often called the “the love hormone,” and acts as a neurotransmitter. As the hormone increases, so do our feelings of generosity, compassion and trust. The hormone also works to decrease feelings of fear and anxiety.
When women feel safe inside a relationship, they are more likely to relax into the state of receiving and giving pleasure.
Increase Sexual Attraction
Still, others believe that holding hands may be even deeper rooted in our biology. Sexual attraction is largely based on polarity, the masculine energy is at odds with the female energy. In true polarity, one leads, the other follows.
When the male energy within a relationship reaches for the female energy whether it is to hold her hand or initiate sex, it’s a form of “claiming your partner” igniting a Me Tarzan, You Jane response.
A recent marriage and family therapist shared with me that she often has men within her practice that think holding hands is weak, overly feminine, or completely unnecessary to which she kindly points out.
“LeBron James holds his wife’s hand, not because he is weak but because he is strong. Holding hands with your partner is one of the most masculine things you can do for your relationship. If you don’t want to hold her hand or touch her outside of love making, don’t be surprised if another King in the jungle steps up and makes his move.”
Decreases Cortisol Levels
In addition to increasing oxytocin, holding hands has also been shown to decrease the stress hormone cortisol. When women are stressed and tired, they tend to increase their masculine energy becoming more aggressive and angry. This is a natural repellent to most masculine men, there can only be one king in the jungle.
When two masculine energies are at odds, you are not making love, you are at war.
Holding hands is a quick and effective tool, to calm the nerves decreasing the levels of cortisol and returning the relationship to a more harmonious state with a greater chance for polarity and ultimately sexual chemistry.
The research is clear, the power of touch is a unique and powerful way to connect with your partner, leading to more bonding, love, connection and yes, even better sex.
Tonja holds a Masters Degree in Business and is a Marriage and Family Therapist Intern in Nevada.