“Through others we become ourselves.” — Lev S. Vygotsky
We live in a time that allows us to pursue our dreams to the point that they become our reality. We can be exactly who and what we choose to be and the outcome of that is 100 percent dependent on our actions. We have the freedom to be ourselves and create a life that is our own. Yet so many people get stuck in a place they don’t want to be. In a place where passion and dreams have been pushed aside for what is safe, socially acceptable, or just comfortable. If you feel that you have become a victim of your circumstances and environment, you need to change your thoughts, start thinking about how your actions or lack of actions have put you there. Look around, there are thousands of people just like you that have taken risks, went against the grain, and put themselves in an uncomfortable position and managed to come out the other side with the life that they dreamt of.For me lifting weights was the start of my conscious path towards constant self-improvement. The place that opened my eyes to how much you can gain by modeling what you want off of what someone else has. Very early on I had someone tell me to find the guy in the gym that I wanted to look like and to do everything that he did. 20 years later I still remember exactly what the guy looked like. How he dressed, and the way he trained, but the thing that still stands out the most was that unmistakable look of focus and intensity in his eyes. At that young age I could tell he was on a different level than everyone else in the gym. That was the level I wanted to be on. I never once spoke to him, I just observed from a distance and did my best to do exactly what he did and how he did it. The results came, I got bigger and stronger going from 135 pounds to 170 pounds in 2 years.
That advice is something that I’ve carried with me through all aspects of my life, find the person that has what you want, looks the way you want, or is doing what you want and do exactly what they are doing to get that result. Using that philosophy I’ve been able to continue to build myself into the person that I want to be and to build a life that is exactly what I want it to be. It’s so easy to get lost in the constant stream of information and the unrealistic personalities that people are plastering on their social media accounts but it doesn’t really matter what anyone else is doing. It’s about what you are doing and what you can do to end up exactly where you want to be. Start looking for inspiration in everyone and everything, it doesn’t matter if it’s real or a facade if it gives you inspiration to improve who and what you are, then it becomes meaningful. Start looking at the world from a different perspective, what can you take from each situation and person you come across to sculpt yourself into the person that you want to be remembered for.